Writing · Wisdom and life
The Hidden Power of Embracing Feedback
By Richard K. Marshall · Originally published
"Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid."
That's Proverbs 12:1. The language is harsh. The truth behind it is one successful people have known for centuries: embracing feedback is a superpower.
Ever gotten feedback that made you want to crawl under a rock? I have.
Why we resist it
- Our ego feels threatened.
- We're afraid we're not good enough.
- We're attached to the way we do things now.
- Change is uncomfortable.
What sets high achievers apart
What separates extraordinary achievers isn't talent. It's how they handle feedback.
They see criticism as a gift, not an attack. Every piece of constructive feedback is free consulting on how to get better.
Three ways to change your relationship with feedback
1. Pause.
- Take a deep breath when you hear it.
- Wait 24 hours before you respond.
- Ask yourself: what can I learn from this?
2. Go looking for it.
- Ask mentors for specific input.
- Ask for regular performance reviews.
- Build feedback loops into your projects.
3. Say thank you.
- Thank people for feedback, even when it stings.
- Write down the key points.
- Make an action plan from it.
They're hungry for it
Here's what I've learned: the most successful people aren't just good at taking feedback. They're hungry for it. Every critique is a step toward excellence.
I remember getting harsh feedback on my first major presentation. I was devastated.
But when I chose to take those comments in instead of defending myself, something changed. My next presentation wasn't just better. It was transformed.
Your challenge
Next time someone gives you constructive criticism:
- Listen with curiosity, not defensiveness.
- Ask clarifying questions.
- Thank them.
- Act on what you learned.
People who critique your work care enough to help you improve. They're investing their time in your growth.
The path to excellence isn't comfortable, but it's worth it.
The smartest person in the room isn't the one who knows everything. It's the one willing to learn anything.
What feedback have you gotten lately that you could turn into growth?
— Richard K. Marshall Lexington, Kentucky
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